Are you tired of seeing those books and articles by stay-at-home moms or moms who work from home? I know I am. I have no quarrel with either/or but let’s be serious. They both have a lot more free time than the average mom who has to wake up at seven, drop off the kids at school or day care, and be at work by nine. To be fair, I’m sure they have “plenty on their plate” to handle during the day. However, having the luxury to do it in your home around your own schedule makes it that much easier to “manage your time”.
Let’s be frank, when you are a working mother there already isn’t enough time in the day, yet alone time to start a business, network, do research, etc. Your precious time is already divided into drop off, pickups, travel time to and from work, grocery shopping, children’s activities, laundry, and the list can go on and on. If I am a working mother, when the heck am I supposed to find the time to start and run a successful business? I get asked this question at least twice a week. Even more so now that everyone has learned I wrote a book. “When did you ever find the time?” they ask.
First, I’m sure you’re wondering what my schedule is. Is it as crazy as yours or as relaxed as a stay-at-home mom’s? Well, I can tell you now it’s a hot mess. My days are juggled between my job, my children, getting fit, starting and trying to run a publishing business, with the goal of making it a success, promoting my first novel, and the many surprises that life decides to throw at me that day or week. This is how I know there is never enough time for a woman to do what she has to do and then take care of herself. Fortunately, I have been able to have off two days a week to help my hubs by playing a bigger role in pickup and drop-off since he had his accident. While this is a temporary solution, I had to be thankful for the “extra time” I would get, right? Wrong! It seems with the “extra time” comes more chores and responsibilities. I don’t know what happened, but now I’m busier than before.
However, when I wrote and completed my book I was working full-time five days a week and taking care of my two children. To be honest: during the writing phase I rarely sat at the computer to write. Most of the time the writing was done on my phone, during train rides, at lunch breaks, and on road trips with the kids. I found the time to write, even if it was a page a day or a chapter a week.
You have to find the time to put yourself that much closer to your dreams. Then and now I have lost major sleep time. I have learned to operate on about half of the required amount that is needed. “Yes, my name is Missy and I am a coffee addict.” Looking back, I see writing was somewhat the easy part. You can write anywhere. Now the hardest part is getting out there to promote. Between wearing all the many hats that I do, the “me” time that has turned into “Claiming Jeremiah time” is slim to none. Trying to find the time to get out there and sell, sell, sell, promote, promote, promote, and network, network, network is almost impossible. If you were looking for solutions, you came to the wrong place. This was merely me venting about how I can possibly buy extra time for myself at this point. Bottom line: the question we have to ask ourselves is “How bad do we want it? How much are we willing to sacrifice?”
Right now it’s 11:20 p.m. on a Saturday night and I still have sixty minutes of workout time to get through, my nineteen-month-old keeps jumping out of her crib, I have yet to eat dinner, and I still have to answer emails from my lovely supporters reaching out to me. Looks like another long night ahead.